Over-dominating can not be countered or corrected by over-nurturing, nor can over-nurturing be countered or corrected by over-dominating. Such an approach leads to schizophrenic instability. Each destabilizing approach to control must be countered with balance and appropriate respect. Balance is stability and stability counters the instability induced by not one or the other, but by both over-dominance and over-nurturing. This balance, this effort of established stability, is the gift and grace of independence and of devout love.