Love vs Sex 185 (#22 on Tantric Sex)

Man’s ejaculation is not really an orgasm, although for men the words orgasm and ejaculation are used interchangeably to describe the experience. The semen is just the physical part, but the psychic and spiritual part of orgasm is missed completely. Here is where the highest potential of sex lies. Orgasm is a state where body is no longer felt as matter; it vibrates like energy, like electricity, filled with light. You are without physical boundaries, a dancing, throbbing energy, consumed with the divine. The body becomes vaporous, vibrating in harmony with the beloved, hearts beating together, and then orgasm happens—two become one—a circle pulsating together. This is the ancient symbol of yin and yang, yin moving into yang and yang moving into yin. It is exactly this spiritual state that we are unknowingly seeking in our conventional thiorst for orgams, because in the few seconds of orgasm that we do have, we can yield a higher force.

Tantra offers an orgasm that is a state and not an event. It is interested in being orgasmic, rather than having an orgasm. One is timeless and the other the fewest of seconds. This ecstatic state is an inner phenomenon from which greater joy and fulfillment arises. It is the experience of a valley orgasm, a falling into the ecstatic depths of relaxation. And perhaps out of this a peak can arise from the depths, forging and swirling its way upward orgasmically to its zenith. In this valley of relaxation a man can experience orgasm without ejaculation. The orgasmic energy moves through the body in waves, but there is no physical part to it—the semen remains in the body. And women are known to release copious liquid, a divine nectar called “amrita”, in the moments of ecstasy.

One cannot actively seek a valley orgasm, that is its beauty. It is not a doing, it is a by-product arising out of an intensity of being, profound relaxation. It happens to you, you do not make it happen. We can actively take steps to relax in sex through the Love Keys and give birth to the possibility of such an emerging experience. And the simplest way to approach it is to resist our habit for always going for orgasm or ejaculation. Relax, remain present, and see what happens instead. It does not mean that you never come. It means you extend the lovemaking and save the ejaculation for much later on, or you come less often, and perhaps gradually with less frequency. A variety of enriching and fulfilling experiences begin to engage you and fill out the lovemaking, and correspondingly the interest or dependence on the peak recedes. It depends on you, remembering when we don’t release the sex energy we are literally empowering ourselves.

The Heart of Tantric Sex

Diana Richardson          2003

Perceptions of Ourselves and of Others 2

Part 2 –

The mixture of madness and light within all people is inherent in our existence. Everyone one of us has some component of category one and category two within our being. Most often, everyone treats everyone (including themselves) in one of these manners and the co-delusion remains perpetually mutual as well as perpetually co-destabilizing. As I stated previously, I believe this is a survival mechanism rooted in the individual psyche and initially employed in a developmental stage when attempting to deal with reality that appears too daunting to process or overcome. It might serve its purpose in that instance, but after surviving whatever eliciting situation, the psyche must shed that behavioral adaption if it is not to remain trapped in an endless cycle that primarily centers on the past.

Perceiving the present through lenses tainted by the past, whether they be of lighter or darker shade, is impossible and a consistent pattern of such behavior is neurotic, pathologic and unbalancing to all. We must see ourselves and everyone else as we all truly exist to attain actual balance, proper harmonizing structure, profound peace, devout spiritual union and “tough” love. There is no substitute or alternative to this approach and this fact remains one of the most confusing absolutes for anyone who is sincerely trying to figure it all out. It seems counterintuitive and almost unthinkable to most to accept that you must “love” or “see” or “acknowledge” the monster or darkness inside of everything, if you truly want to understand its essence and your own. We have been taught to deny such things…to ignore the fact of their existence supposedly for our own peace and salvation; to pretend and solidify our unrelenting faith on this pretending. This is madness and we have been indoctrinated with such insanity all of our lives by false prophets and other entities, some of whom are aware of the darkness they infectiously spread and others who are simply ignorant and naive vectors. Indoctrinated destabilization makes us easy to control and manipulate, and the effects of such tampering and puppeteering extended throughout every aspect of our lives, including the harnessing of suppressed/repressed sexual energy for war and our weakest compulsive addictions for excessive consumerism.           Indoctrinated destabilization blocks union and thus the auto-corrective force of natural order that exists within all of humanity. We don’t get to just recreate/rewrite people or animals or ourselves or anything else in existence with our own preferred delusion if we ever truly want to escape the prison of being trapped within our own mind. That is unfortunately where almost everyone gets unknowingly stuck, and it is important to add,  while vehemently pretending they are not. I cannot overstress the relevance of this point. To achieve union and the grace of our inherent auto-corrective nature, we must escape the confines of our own mind and the only way to do so is to stop tainting everything with our own preferred delusion.

(To be continued…)

Cribb          2016



Love vs Sex 184

Cribb Pretext: This is a passage describing the present thoughts of Dr. Obispo who happens to be in the initial stages of secretly seducing the young girlfriend of his patient, Mr. Stoyte. The “ninety-nine” is being uttered by Mr. Stoyte at the request of Dr. Obispo to supposedly help improve his auscultation of Mr. Stoyte’s heart and lungs.

The assumed matter of tumescence and detumescence naturally occurring as a normal event or dynamic in the action of a nurturing and satiating love versus the possible unnatural, detracting and misleading addition of such forces/impurities to the principle of love is at the heart of this exchange. Dr. Obispo thrives on taking the emotionally thrilling tumescence/detumescence that almost all who haven’t given up completely on the existence of love, hold onto as the central component of their sustained belief, and irrefutably altering that sustaining belief by undeniably extracting that appealing emotional ebb and flow charge (of tumescence/detumescence) from any kind of “romantic” or “spiritual” notion. He wants to obliterate the spiritual notion of true love by displaying that the emotional ebb and flow originate only in the physical realm and even more so in situations associated with deception, corruption, manipulation, debasement and debauchery. He does this to feed his own insecure ego and to justify the absence of any spiritual force within his own being.

Interestingly, Dr. Obispo’s observations are in part correct. The tumescence/detumescence is all about its own sake and it does originate only in the physical state. The dynamic should not be confused as a spiritual force or component. The part not discussed in this passage, is that higher love escapes physical emotional charge (tumescence/detumescence) or at least acknowledges it for what it is and keeps it confined in its limited proper context. Sex can involve love or be removed from it. Not all sex is the same and as appealing and physically satiating as great physical sex can be, it is no match whatsoever for great physical sex coupled and catalyzed by the inclusion of upper transcendence. Sex of lower transcendence involves deception, degradation, and debasement…..the negative and draining flow of energy from one to another. It is spiritual only on the level of a basic animal. Sex of upper transcendence is uplifting, nurturing, and catalytic in union. It is a fission reactor for both members in spiritual energy, balance and love. Dr. Obispo does not believe in or acknowledge that “love” or any force of upper transcendence exists and he is comforted by turning as many people as he may away from any chance of believing or potentially experiencing such a force.

Cribb          2016

He believed in scientific truth. Facts were facts; accept them as such. It was a fact, for example, that young girls in the pay of rich old men could be seduced without much difficulty. It was also a fact that rich old men, however successful at business, were generally so frightened, ignorant and stupid that they could be bamboozled by any intelligent person who chose to try.

“Say ninety-nine again,” he said aloud.

“Ninety-nine. Ninety-nine.”

Ninety-nine chances out of a hundred that they would never find out anything. That was the fact about old men. The fact about love was that it consisted essentially of tumescence and detumescence. So why embroider the fact with unnecessary fictions? Why not be realistic? Why not treat the whole business scientifically?

“Ninety-nine,” Mr. Stoyte went on repeating. “Ninety-nine.”

And then, Dr. Obispo went on to reflect, as he listened without interest to the whisperings and crepitations inside the warm, smelly barrel before him, then there were the more personal reasons for preferring to take love unadorned, in the chemically pure condition. Personal reasons that were, also, of course, a fact that had to be accepted. For it was a fact that he personally found an added pleasure in the imposition of his will upon the partner he had chosen. To be pleasurable, this imposition of will must never be too easy, too much a matter of course. Which ruled out professionals. The partner had to be an amateur and, like all amateurs, committed to the thesis that tumescence and detumescence should always be associated with LOVE, PASSION, SOUL-MATING—all in upper-case letters. In imposing his will, he imposed the contradictory doctrine, the doctrine of tumescence and detumescence for tumescence’s and detumescence’s sake.

After Many a Summer Dies the Swan

Aldous Huxley          1939


Warrior Poet Mental Yoga 113 – Huxley on Solar Power, Bosses, Jeffersonian Democracy, and the Constitution from 1939 (Part 2 of 2)

(continued from WPMY 111)

“Public ownership of the means of production,” Mr. Propter repeated. “But unfortunately governments have a way of regarding individual producers as being parts of the means. Frankly, I’d rather have Jo Stoyte as my boss than Jo Stalin. This Jo” (he laid his hand on Mr. Stoyte’s shoulder) ” this Jo can’t have you executed; he can’t send you to the Arctic; he can’t prevent you from getting a job under another boss. Whereas the other Jo…” he shook his head. “Not that,” he added, “I’m exactly longing to have even this Jo as my boss.”

“You’d be fired pretty quick,” growled Mr. Stoyte.

“I don’t want any boss,” Mr. Propter went on. “The more bosses, the less democracy. But unless people can support themselves, they’ve got to have a boss who’ll undertake to do it for them. So the less self-support, the less democracy. In Jefferson’s day, a great many Americans did support themselves. They were economically independent. Independent of government and independent of big business. Hence the Constitution.”

“We’ve still got the Constitution,” said Mr. Stoyte.

“No doubt,” Mr. Propter agreed. “But if we had to make a new Constitution today, what would it be like? A Constitution to fit the facts of New York and Chicago and Detroit; of United States Steel and the Public Utilities and General Motors and the C.I.O. and the government departments. What on earth would it be like?” he repeated. “We respect our old Constitution, but in fact we live under a new one. And if we want to live under the first, we’ve got to recreate something like the conditions under which the first was made. That’s why I’m interested in this gadget.” He patted the frame of the machine. “Because it may help to give independence to anyone who desires independence. Not that many do desire it,” he added parenthetically. “The propaganda in favour of dependence is too strong. They’ve come to believe that you can’t be happy unless you’re entirely dependent on government or centralized business. But for the few who do care about democracy, who really want to be free in the Jeffersonian sense, this thing may be a help. If it makes them independent of fuel and power, that’s already a great deal.”

Mr. Stoyte looked anxious. “Do you really think it’ll do that?”

“Why not?” said Mr. Propter. “There’s a lot of sunshine running to waste in this part of the country.”

Mr. Stoyte thought of his presidency of Consol Oil Company. “It won’t be good for the oil business,” he said.

“I should hate it to be good for the oil business,” Mr. Propter answered cheerfully.

“And what about coal?” He had an interest in a group of West Virginia mines. “And the railroads?” There was that big block of Union Pacific shares that had belonged to Prudence. “The railroads can’t get on without long hauls. And steel,” he added disinterestedly; for his holdings in Bethlehem Steel were almost negligible. “What happens to steel if you hurt the railroads and cut down trucking? You’re going against progress,” he burst out in another access of righteous indignation. You’re turning back the clock.”

“Don’t worry, Jo,” said Mr. Propter. “It won’t affect your dividends for quite a long while. There’ll be plenty of time to adjust to the new market conditions.”

With an admirable effort, Mr. Stoyte controlled his temper. “You seem to figure I can’t think of anything but money,” he said with dignity. “Well, it may interest you to know that I’ve decided to give Dr. Mulge another thirty thousand dollars for his Art School.” (The decision has been made there and then, for the sole purpose of serving as a weapon in the perennial battle with Bill Propter.) “And if you think,” he added as an afterthought, “if you think I’m only concerned with my own interests, read the special World’s Fair number of the New York Times. Read that,” he insisted with the solemnity of a fundamentalist recommending the Book of Revelation. “You’ll see that the most forward-looking men in our country think as I do.” He spoke with unaccustomed and incongruous unction, in the phraseology of after-dinner eloquence. “The way of progress is the way of better organization, more service from business, more goods for the consumer!” Then, incoherently, “Look at the way a housewife goes to her grocer,” he added, “and buys a package of some nationally advertised cereal or something. That’s progress. Not your crackpot idea of doing everything at home with this idiotic contraption.” Mr. Stoyte had reverted completely to his ordinary style. “You’ll always were a fool, Bill, and I guess you always will be. And remember what I told you about interfering with Bob Hansen. I won’t stand for it.” In dramatic silence he walked away; but after taking a few steps, he halted and called back over his shoulder. “Come up to dinner, if you feel like it.”

“Thanks,” said Mr. Propter. “I will.”

Mr. Stoyte walked briskly towards his car. He had forgotten about high blood pressure and the living God and felt all of the sudden unaccountably and unreasonably happy. It was not that he had scored any notable success in his battle with Bill Propter. He hadn’t; and, what was more, in the process of not scoring a success he had made, and was even half aware that he had made, a bit of a fool of himself. The source of his happiness was elsewhere. He was happy, though he would never have admitted the fact, because, in spite of everything, Bill seemed to like him.

After Many a Summer Dies the Swan

Aldous Huxley          1939


Perceptions of Ourselves and of Others

There are essentially three different categories of clients that you get as a veterinarian. These same categories also apply to how people relate to their pets, their friends, their children, and their lovers. It is very important to understand how the three categories of people interact with you and just as important for you to understand which category you belong to when interacting with others.

The first category believes that you are a god incapable of ever doing the wrong thing or making a mistake or being inept in any degree whatsoever. If you committed an act of gross malpractice or overt negligence or temporary asinine insanity, even under their direct crystalclear observation, they would still deny that you ever did anything remotely close to the sort. This category of clients rewrites objective reality to make you into a unquestionable and sacrificial beacon of light or the always fair and just performer of medical miracles or a veterinarian of superhuman powers that has no susceptibility to kryptonite or any other power within the universe.

The second category is of those who are persistently skeptical, excessively judgemental, passively-aggressively condescending, and prone to confrontation in damn near every approach, exchange, and/or interaction that they have with you. One might rationally wonder why someone of this ilk and apparent mindset towards you would continue to choose to remain a steadfast participant in such a dynamic. Despite the answer to that telltale answer, it is important that you understand that this category of client does exist and it exists in one form or another as a large, if not the largest category percentage of the whole client base. This type of client will always find something wrong with your approach or your recommendations or your actual actions. Such might not be consistent with Dr. Google’s or their next door neighbor’s opinion on veterinary medicine or they might deem your recommendations simply way too expensive and unnecessary or sometimes they may just outright criticise, demean, and defame your current or past performed medicine and/or surgery. There tends to be little to nothing that you may do in actual skill, expertise, communication or intent to temper, alter or rectify their overcritical and incredulous mindset and interactive behavior. The closest that you may come to mitigating this category of client is through the offering of a undeserved discount/refund or by subjugating yourself into an inappropriate submissive posture while in their presence. Even these mitigations only satiate this category for the briefest period of time and after such an attempt, each future exchange with them with involve a progressive escalation in their bullying behavior.

The first and second categories of clients are essentially the same from a psychoanalytic perspective. Most might argue that the two are diametrically opposed and that the first is empathic, caring, and full of love, while the second is mean, ugly, bullying, and unappreciative. There is a partial truth to this view, but the greater truth, the absolute of the displayed behavior and interaction in both cases, is that those of both category one and category two suffer from significant egocentric delusion. They both live in their own head and they interact with a pseudo-world of pseudo-experience and pseudo-truth. You might call it their own “matrix” of existence. And though the individual techniques of each category vary somewhat, both are founded on them “controlling reality” by “rewriting” your true essence. In actual effect, they are negating you. They don’t see you, they don’t hear you, they don’t even know who and what you truly are…..and all of that means they really don’t want to know or that perhaps, they are too frightened or fearful of reality to want to even take the chance of finding out what your true essence might be. I do not suggest that most of these people are consciously aware of their behavior and their associated “rewritten” projections of justification which validate their psyches approach towards others. I do believe that in the majority of these cases their psyche seeks such ongoing validation (actually manufactured) to comply (maintain the illusion) with an inherent survival mechanism it adopted willingly or unwillingly at a much earlier stage of development. In other words, to survive or adapt to whatever circumstances they perceived in early childhood, the majority of people withdraw their “reality” from actual reality and repackage it as a world full of people who they either must approach through persistent mistrust, doubt, criticism, and condemnation or endless forgiveness, excessive praise, submissive enablement, and unhealthy sacrifice.

Both approaches take many subforms and some of those subforms can be extremely subtle. They are not always obvious and they do not always rise to the surface of behavioral interaction. But regardless of the intensity of the outward expression, either approach establishes an imbalance and pathology in any relationship it engages in. This fact should never be overlooked or undervalued. A relationship that a person has with a false/rewritten you, whether built up or torn down, is still never a true relationship with you. At a minimum, you must identify those people you interact with that behave in either fashion and not allow their delusion to impact negatively upon your perception and understanding of yourself and the rest of reality. Removing the delusions or at least incapacitating their distractive impact, allows one to focus more on accurate self-evaluation and thus objective self-existence. This is of paramount importance in attaining peace and learning to truly love yourself, and both of these acts are essential for you to be able to form healthy synergistic relationships of nurturing union and transcendence with others.

(To be continued…)

Cribb          2015

Empaths, Apaths, and Sociopaths; The Warriors of Transcendence – 2

Part 2 (of 5) of my top blog postings from 2015. A fascinating subject in every respect. It is certainly relevant to understanding human behavior and the foundation of micro and macro societal interaction. Enjoy if you will.



Empaths account for approximately 33-36% of humanity. These entities are typically highly aware. They sense and/or feel and/or perceive the real emotions, the true energy, and the actually visceral perceptions of others as they pertain to introspective feelings and to their relativity with the rest of existence. Empaths are especially sensitive to disharmony, suffering, pain, emotional distress, hypocrisy, and the complexity of connectedness. They sense when “something is just not right” and they find it very hard to “turn a blind eye” to any “injustice” as the Apath typically prefers and does.

The potential for madness and confusion, coupled with an enormous draining burden of responsibility, parallels the degree of awareness present in any given person. This is because awareness is not easy to absorb, process, or often tolerate. The Apath is “numb” and “naive” from limited awareness and thus content, unburdened, and essentially (consciously or unconsciously) apathetic about…

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