If you have an over-dominate man (husband or other) living in a home and getting everyone in the house to be subservient and enabling to his wants, needs, desires, and whims, whether it is more voluntary and enabling (passive acceptance) by his spouse and children or more so out of suppression and overt fear (“he just yells or hits when he gets mad, so lets make his life easy”), the man is still an over-dominate monster. Whether or not he is “temporarily behaving” or “doing well most of the time” or “allowing you to go through the false notion and illusion that he respects you and listens to you at some point in time” is completely and utterly irrelevant. These are delusions or misrepresentations of reality, incidentally, often noted in abused or captive victims. The underlying truth and undeniable fact is that this over-dominate man is constantly imposing his will and rule on all.
When this same man meets, encounters, or greets another person that will hold him accountable and not allow him to impose his subjugating over-dominance on them, an “incident” will occur…a challenge…that may include “blood letting” as the over-dominate man does not want to respect or “lose the power he wields over HIS home” to this new person. The over-dominate man will “fight” to maintain the inappropriate imbalance of power and respect in that home. The blame should not reside in the new person who is demanding respect. The over-dominate man is a ticking-time bomb.
Please reread the above passages once or twice before you read on.
The exact same logic applies when you replace the term over-dominate man with the term over-dominate dog. It is exactly the same dynamic.
The exact same logic applies when you replace the term over-dominate man with the term over-dominate (spoiled) child. It is exactly the same dynamic.